Valentine's Day

A Valentine’s Day Reminder

Guys, listen up. Valentine's Day is almost here, so this one's for you!

Some common fallacies about Valentine's Day:
• It's a scam
• It's just to get me to spend money
• It's for guys who aren't really strong men
• It's just something someone dreamed up to get me to be emotional


Valentine's Day represents the best of what you have to offer. Women need to be told they are loved, and occasionally, they need tangible reminders. Things are not as important to some women as they are to others, but anything you do to prove you care is an expression of how much she means to you.

Give of yourself. Here's an idea. Give her a small booklet of things you will do for her in the next three months. Here are some possibilities:
• I will clean out the garage
• I will wash your car
• I will give you a foot rub each week
• I will take you to dinner

The Element of Surprise

Surprises can be fun, but make sure she likes them. I used to give surprise birthday parties for my wife only to find out years later (she tried to hint) that she didn't like surprise parties!

Here are some alternatives:
• Give her your time.
• Offer to take her someplace she has always wanted to go.
• Give her a night that you promise to "sit and listen to her." Tell her you will take note of things she wants to share. (Remember to always avoid the words "you, always, and never.") Learn to communicate more!

Take Her Somewhere Nice

OK, so it's a little late for planning. Just remember this does not have to be done on February 14th—any day around that day will do.

You could take roses by the restaurant ahead of time. Think about giving her one rose or other flower for each year you are married. (Do you know her favorite flower?)

Take a card and a "small box" with you. OK guys…a small box means some kind of jewelry. Got it? My father-in-law was a jeweler, and I quickly learned the value of small boxes. This can be nice costume jewelry if you can't afford the hard stuff!

Tell her why you are giving her a special gift. Give her your undivided attention. Write it out and read it to her if that helps. Some guys have a hard time expressing how they feel, so if you need help call a sister or a friend.

The Bottom Line

Valentine's Day is just another day on the calendar.

Money may be tight at your house—so buy her a card and add your own special note as to why you love her. Tell her that you care, buy a single rose and go to an inexpensive restaurant. Remember you don't have to do anything that costs money to let your wife know that you love her unconditionally.

However you choose to mark the occasion, Valentine's Day should remind you of what you should be doing on a regular basis…loving her, showing her why you care, and doing it from the heart!

Go for it!

J.B. and Shugie



This is from an email I get from NC Baptist Convention called Marriage Matters.